AMOR EST OCULUS VERITATIS
“Love is the eye of truth.”
The feminine realizes and comes into her power as she learns unconditional self-love. It is her realization that she can be ________ (a trait she deems undesirable) and still love herself which opens up space in her body to receive the energy of her masculine counterpart.
This is not a “resting on mediocrity” kind of unconditional love, but the realization that her mind and body are the vessels of divinity, and therefore, her careful and loving stewardship is required. She must love and appreciate herself FIRST and foremost. Through this lens of self-love, her energy becomes “lighter” and she is better able to perceive how to care for herself in all aspects of life. Her body then improves, as her love guides her toward healthier habits. Her mindset improves, as dark thoughts of hate/fear dissipate. And her spiritual life improves, as she begins to feel a protective softness permeating her life. In this way, her ability to both trust and love blooms.
A woman’s ability to cultivate this unconditional state manifests differently based on certain factors. Her subconscious mind develops a sense of self-love initially based upon her early years of witnessing how her father loves her mother. Seeing a respectful and loving exchange here is the foundation of how she will see herself in later years. It is the seeding of: “This is how the masculine loves and treats women.”
Next, the responsibility is on the father to outwardly show love to the girl during her girlhood. His palpable love, presence, protection, support, and interest in her life forms the second layer of her self-perception: “This is how the masculine loves and treats me.”
How well this process went for her will determine the level of difficulty she will have in cultivating unconditional self-love. For example, if love was withheld from her unless she “achieved” or presented a certain version of herself, she comes into adulthood with certain “conditions” that she feels must be met in order to love herself. This will manifest in all kinds of different ways and the process of externally meeting these conditions usually becomes the driver of how she carries herself into adulthood and what motivates her.
This is her subconscious patterning, or the “pattern” (paternal structure) that was placed upon the “matter” or material of her psyche during her formative years. And this subconscious patterning will drive her life until it is made conscious. More about this feminine and masculine “pattern upon matter” etymology in another one of my blog posts, I have linked it: Here
As a side note: The reason why the feminine psyche is developed based upon the love she receives, rather than the love she gives, is because she embodies the receptive element of reality. The masculine psyche develops in a similar and yet distinctly different and complementary way, which I may decide to write about at a later time. But as a little bit of insight: Her drive is to be the most prime material upon which a pattern may be displayed, replicated, and expanded. His drive, (through strength, truth, and love) is to embody a pattern worthy of replication. This is the drive, competition, and purpose of evolutionary sexual selection: The best patterns get replicated and physically manifested upon the best materials.
“Sultana” by Henry Clive
We are now arriving at the foundation of the true spiritual awakening process. This is not unconscious ideological/religious conditioning taking hold of the subconscious mind. Nor is it mass emotionalism disguised as transcendence through ritualistic worship, collective ecstasy, or emotionally charged experiences that feel transformative while merely agitating the ego.
Many religious systems are structured in psychologically potent ways. For example, Christianity presents a paternal God, the “Father,” who offers unconditional love to flawed humanity. Such frameworks can become especially compelling to individuals carrying certain emotional wounds or unmet subconscious needs. Without awareness, one may mistake emotional dependence or psychological absorption for genuine spiritual awakening. An individual who allows his or herself to be swept up with religion usually becomes an impotent cog in this machine.
True and effective spiritual practice is a measured, disciplined, and deeply conscious process of accessing and refining one’s own subconscious. Emotional delusion clouds perception and distorts truth. We must enter the subconscious realm not with fear or emotional frenzy, but with clarity, self-awareness, and the light of unconditional self-love.
This unconditional self-love becomes the light with which Truth can accurately be perceived. It is an undistorted lens that sees Truth objectively and not emotionally. The Truth cannot be bent, but flailing egoic emotions will seem to bend it. When in fact, this is the person’s consciousness being bent around their emotions which leads to failed accuracy. This is called cognitive dissonance.
The only way to perceive truth accurately is through the lens of unconditional self-love. The reason for this is that any misperceptions are caused by one’s inability to accept something truthful that challenges a sense of self that relies on conditions. Truth is all around us and is constantly trying to permeate vessels and awaken them, but those with cloudy self-perception will struggle with this. Unconditional self-love is the cleansing agent of the consciousness that will allow for accurate perception.
For example:
Consider a beautiful floor-to-ceiling window. It is beautiful, yet very dirty. It is hard to see through this window accurately. What does that sign across the street say…? That person is looking at me with a mean look on their face… what did I ever do to them?! Oh, it looks like they are running towards me with a weapon!
The dirty window is a clouded consciousness that has not been cleansed with unconditional self-love. Slowly but surely, we can clean this window and eventually we can read the street sign accurately. We can see that the mean-looking stranger was actually wearing a face of despair which was not a personal attack on us. And the weapon was actually the person’s flimsy attempt at self-preservation, which can do us no harm.
Therefore, the spiritual “work” is not trying to force an awakening, but rather removing all distorting obstacles to that force.
This is how these great powers work hand-in-hand: Truth and Love. The truths of life can only be accurately perceived through a clear lens, and the proper cleansing agent is unconditional love. 💌 IN AMORE VERITAS
Alchemical illustration from “Anatomia Auri” by Johann Daniel Mylius (1628)
